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Why do I attract drama?

I belong to a couple of Yahoo groups for my scrapbooking hobby (obsession) and I have been really happy with the group of people I've met and become friends with through these groups.  There's been some drama within the group caused by this one woman (Shannon) and her crony.  She's done a lot of unethical things to other people and has essentially started a parallel group and from what I've heard, spends a lot of time badmouthing the original group. 

Okay... now it's a few months later.  This girl, Lisa, posted an ad on the group I belong to about how she's starting a new group since so many people don't like the way the current group is heading.  I took offense to the ad and posted a response saying so because I've seen and heard the group owner practically in tears over this kind of crap.  I honestly thought I was being nice.  There was some back and forth and I apologized to Lisa, wished her well in her endeavor and thought it was over.

Now one of the people I thought was a closer friend of mine (Stacy) is attacking me in emails about how wrong I was to make my post, that I caused two people to unsubscribe.  Those two people: Shannon and Lisa.  Good riddance to bad baggage in my opinion.  Stacy just won't let it go and keeps attacking me over and over even though I've apologized to Lisa, apologized to her (Stacy) and have asked straight out, "What do I have to do to end this?"  

I'm so flustered that I'm sitting here in my office in tears.  I'm hurt that only one person has come to my defense.  I'm considering unsubscribing from the group and just being done with all of it.  It just harkens back to the whole schism of the group I was friends with in college.  When my then best friend accused me of badmouthing her, she made everyone take sides and there are people who still don't talk to me to this day. 

Am I that bad of a friend? 

 

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redqueenmeg
Jan. 24th, 2006 07:19 pm (UTC)
NO. There are just some people who are freaking stupid as hell. God, even when I've had disagreements with people, I have NEVER EVER EVER made someone choose sides! If I have a disagreement with someone that has nothing to do with a third party, and that third party wants to remain friends with me and with the person I'm disagreeing with, that has always been fine with me. WTF.

I do know what you mean, though. I hate online drama even worse at times. People will accept the worst behavior from others and then if you do anything that's only say 10% as bad, YOU get rode all over. Whatever.
purplejuli
Jan. 24th, 2006 08:12 pm (UTC)
I'm just so annoyed. It's all so, geez, freaking high school-ish. And the lack of sleep is exacerbating my mood.

Not to mention that there is renovation going on in my office and an industrial vaccuum has been running (loudly) for the past 45 minutes.
sweetjezebel
Jan. 25th, 2006 10:04 am (UTC)
Most importantly, no. You are not a bad friend. Otherwise, I would not have hunted you down to join LJ, worried we'd lose touch!

That all does sound like major lame drama. I'm sorry you're having to deal with that. I mean, it's just so ridiculous. And you're right! So what if the two people who didn't actually like it there unsubscribed?? Plus, you've tried to make amends. What is left, slitting your wrists? Jesus, get real.

Hopefully it all blows over soon and things will get back to normal. Chin up girl! :) Or else tell them your twin & her cop hubby will come to regulate! ;)
purplejuli
Jan. 25th, 2006 09:37 pm (UTC)
I'm so tired of this kind of stuff happening whenever women form a group. It's so petty and stupid.

sweetjezebel
Jan. 26th, 2006 01:44 am (UTC)
I know how you feel... :(
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