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"Pregnancy Pact" in Massachusetts

Seventeen sophomore girls at a smallish high school in an isolated Massachusetts town got pregnant over the last school year and rather than being upset by it, these girls were excited and happy.  Babies are a blessing, true, but to fifteen and sixteen year old girls who legally cannot consent to sex?  This seems to be a topic of interest to reporters and bloggers and everyone is focused on these girls, the school administrators and the economy in the town and I'm really dismayed that I haven't seen much about the fathers of these babies!

As a mother of sons, I really feel for these boys and want to know if they knew what the girls were planning.  Blah blah blah, they should have worn condoms, yadda, yadda, yadda.  We don't really know that they didn't.  Condoms are pretty easily thwarted, all you need is a safety pin.  I read somewhere that the boys could face statutory rape charges.  They will have to be responsible for these children for the rest of their lives, and since they are so young, I am sure it's going to end up that their parents are playing child support. 

And I know, they chose to have sex, they have to live with the consequences, but we're talking about teenaged boys.  What teenage boy takes a pass when sex is offered? 

This is the biggest fear I have for my sons, that they'll get involved with someone young and their potential will be spoiled by early fatherhood.  I'm not going to kid myself that they'll maintain virginity until they're 21 but I hope they'll be smart about it, that their future will be important enough to them to protect themselves. 

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mazey_daze
Jun. 26th, 2008 03:53 pm (UTC)
I worry about my kiddo getting involved with someone like that too. Thankfully he's still 11 so I don't have to worry too much..but it's only a matter of time until we have to have the skank ho talk.
purplejuli
Jun. 26th, 2008 04:05 pm (UTC)
That's a funny way to put it, but it's true. It's such a tough thing and the crazy hormones of teenagers make it difficult to convince them they're not in a love that will last. I'm dreading the whole time period. I hope I can get them so involved in sports or something else that girls are an afterthought.
mazey_daze
Jun. 26th, 2008 04:10 pm (UTC)
I'm putting my son in drum lessons and hoping he takes up with band. Kids at that age are so difficult. They think everything that happens to them is happening for the first time to anyone..and since they are progressing in freedom they think everything is a big deal. Gah I dread it too. My kiddo is already starting to show some symptoms of the freedom tug. He's coming home today..has been gone for a week with grandma. I'm so excited about him coming home but I'm so afraid he's going to act like a little shit because he's probably had not structure while he's been off playin with mamaw. Kids, sheese. lol
iskender
Jun. 26th, 2008 06:44 pm (UTC)
I don't mean to be crass, but good luck with band. At every school I attended, the band was a hotbed of sexual activity. Not that that's to be avoided in and of itself, or that you can necessarily avoid it without ostracizing your own child. It's a hard thing to deal with.
purplejuli
Jun. 26th, 2008 06:45 pm (UTC)
"...and this one time, at band camp..."

oh yeah, um, maybe band isn't such a good idea.
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mazey_daze
Jun. 26th, 2008 06:47 pm (UTC)
Im a band geek
I was in band.....6 years. Sexual activity is something we're going to have to deal with no matter where he's at. At least with band he'll be getting something out of it to help enrich his life rather than just hanging around town in a car getting drunk screwing or whatever else might be out there for him to get into. The fact is that unless you're in touch with your kid he can get into that thing no matter where he's at. I think the positives to band far outweigh the negatives IMO.
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mazey_daze
Jun. 26th, 2008 06:49 pm (UTC)
Oh, and I'm thinking were the cheerleaders and football team not screwing each other. I guess we should keep our kids at home the rest of their teenage years so they don't encounter anything.
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rubyprincess
Jun. 26th, 2008 04:15 pm (UTC)
IIRC and I could be completely wroing as the story sickened me and I had to stop reading -- I thought there was one particular guy who fathered quite a few of these children - a 24 year old local homeless man. Not that this makes it any better but are we sure all the baby daddies are underage? Again, my info is spotty at best...
purplejuli
Jun. 26th, 2008 04:18 pm (UTC)
I thought I read that only one of the babies was fathered by the homeless guy.

Can we say, "ICK!"
rubyprincess
Jun. 26th, 2008 04:25 pm (UTC)
Abso-freakin-lutely!
I'd look again but I'm fresh outta brain bleach, ya know?
OT - have you brought the kiddos to Dutch Wonderland? Thoughts?
purplejuli
Jun. 26th, 2008 04:33 pm (UTC)
We haven't gone to Dutch Wonderland yet because we have season passes for Sesame Place (and we're there every Sunday). I suppose we'll go at some point soon, it's only like half an hour from the house.
rubyprincess
Jun. 26th, 2008 04:46 pm (UTC)
Funny that Sesame is about half an hour from OUR house! DW seems terrific -- on our list for this summer. Lemme know if you guys go - would love to hear the scoop as it's been yeas since I've been there.
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purplejuli
Jun. 26th, 2008 04:21 pm (UTC)
Great editorial by a British columnist

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2008/jun/25/gender.sexeducation

With all the finger pointing going on, let's point some fingers at Bush, the Republican party and Fundamentalist Christians who support and fund only abstinence-only sex ed that is often incorrect and misleading.

Edited at 2008-06-26 04:22 pm (UTC)
lynnh
Jun. 26th, 2008 07:33 pm (UTC)
I'm just not going to allow my boys to grow up. That's the plan, anyway.
sweetjezebel
Jun. 27th, 2008 08:09 am (UTC)
Totally agree with ya here Jules... it sucks that men don't have more say-so in some instances.
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